DEAR MISS MANNERS: I like my new boss. He’s supportive, accessible and good. Because the complete staff works remotely, our conferences happen on-line. However how do you strategy the boss about his being fully inappropriately dressed for a enterprise assembly — even a digital one?

This in any other case nice man reveals up on display screen in his dwelling workplace, which is full of motion figures, wearing a really loose-fitting, sleeveless basketball shirt. It doesn’t look good and it positively doesn’t appear applicable for a enterprise name. I’m all for informal, particularly when working from dwelling, however that is next-level. Any concepts on easy methods to broach this topic with him?

GENTLE READER: You would ask his recommendation about how he expects workers to decorate for videoconferences, stating that you do not need to seem unprofessional or offend shoppers.

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I’m internet hosting a vacation spot household reunion. My kids, their households and I are all touring to the realm the place my sisters and their households reside for the occasion.

As plans got here collectively, I despatched out invites saying, “No plus-ones, please.” But my sister blithely let me know that her 16-year-old granddaughter is bringing her new boyfriend, as if it had been the cutest factor.

Nothing in opposition to the harmless younger man, as any added expense shall be negligible, however I’m fuming. There are 4 teenaged cousins within the household. The thought is to work together with one another, and perhaps even with different generations. The message to me is that she disdains the household’s firm as unbearably boring. Is that this as clear a breach because it strikes me, or only a trendy development that’s futile and petty to withstand?

GENTLE READER: Bringing the uninvited boyfriend, when extras have been explicitly excluded, is impolite, however Miss Manners is unable to make the logical leap to decoding it as a criticism and rejection of the household.

Would it not not be extra entertaining to let slip that you’re so happy to listen to that the boyfriend is to be thought-about a member of the family, even when the announcement has not but been made?

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: In current months, the one who has been cleansing our home for greater than 4 years, whereas charging a aggressive worth, has delivered disappointing service. We’re two senior adults dwelling in a modest 1,500-square-foot dwelling. There’s restricted “folks visitors” coming via the home, and we do preserve the home between cleansing appointments.

How and when ought to we strategy her and talk our present disappointment along with her companies?

GENTLE READER: Simply as with cleansing itself, this isn’t a activity made simpler by delay. As to the “how,” Miss Manners trusts you’ll strategy the cleaner with the identical skilled respect that you’d prolong to any worker.

(Please ship your inquiries to Miss Manners at her web site,; to her e mail,; or via postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas Metropolis, MO 64106.)



1130 Walnut St., Kansas Metropolis, MO 64106; 816-581-7500

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